Nate Thiry is a lover of God and people. If he’s not twittering, he’s most likely supporting local businesses, serving at LifeChurch.tv YKN, or dominating his Masters program. One who challenges me on a weekly basis by his thoughts and words of wisdom, I’m honored to have Nate guest post on my blog today — Send him some link love & check out his blog “Pity Laughs.”
Why Marriages Work/Fail by Nate Thiry
My two biological parents are happily married…just not to each other. They are both, in fact, on their 3rd marriage. Simple math would tell you that I’ve been through 3 total divorces (and witnessed a few more) none of which were my own. If you’ve begun to have pity on me, I wish you wouldn’t. I really turned out pretty good, by the grace of God, & it’s these experiences that have given me this perspective on marriage: don’t get divorced. Now, I’m not married, nor have I ever been married, but I’ve gained a wealth of information both by watching those who are, and those who were.
You see, I watch and learn quite a bit. I watched my parents get divorced, and learned that it sucked. I’ve watched people stay married, and I learned that it’s awesome. I’ve also learned some foundational things—common denominators, if you will.
Marriages that are TRULY built on Christ, and that TRULY apply biblical principles every day will never fail.
Marriages that are built on selfishness will always fail.
Sure, I make it sound easy, and I know it’s definitely not. I also know those aren’t the only two scenarios of marriage. I’m also not saying it won’t take a lot of work, and that everything will always be rainbows and butterflies if you go with the first option.
A lot of times, I feel like we over-complicate things in life (especially marriage) but God gave us a simple, yet great example of marriage in the 5th chapter of the book of Ephesians. Someone could give me all the marriage advice in the world, but none would top this stuff. Let’s check it out in The Message translation for a little added flair.
“23 The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. 24 So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. 25 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.”
Soak it in. Drink it like a warm pot of tea on a cold day. It’s that refreshing.
“What’s my role as a husband?” Lead like Christ
“What’s my role as a wife?” Submit like the church
Don’t say He never told you! Now make it work.