I know many of you came upon this post thinking there would be pictures of Jersey Shore’s “The Situation” to start us off, but that content isn’t permitted here. No, sir-ee
The Situation as it pertains to myself these days involves
the art of moving back in with the much-loved parents after being on my own for so long.
Like many people, it’s normal to move away from home after high school and continue schooling into college. Again, like many people, (or as i’d like to think) it’s common to move back in with your parents when you’re finished with said schooling. Whether you have or haven’t graduated, are employed or unemployed…whatever the case may be — the 4 years of independence from your parents are long gone, and before you know it, you’re sleeping in the the same room you grew up in.
Now, many people associate moving back in with the parents with simply failing to grow up, or as being an “adultolescent” — yielding to a result that you have not exited childhood yet. Some people move back home to avoid the “real world” to simply delay the responsibilities that come with being an adult. And no, you don’t still get your “allowance” once you move back home..so don’t even ask!
I’m happy to say that this is not the case for me. I’m happily employed, paying my own bills, and living as independently as possible while sharing sq. footage w/ the parents. I moved back home to be financially responsible; to temporarily reduce my expenses; to build on my savings, thus being able to prepare for my future marriage with some sort of financial stability.
Let me rewind. Before I graduated High School — I obviously lived with my parents for 18 years. From the good o’le days as a child, the insecurities in middle school, & the years of HS — they knew pretty much everything about me. My thought-process, friends, activities/sports, where-a-bouts, struggles, strengths/weaknesses, etc..
After leaving that 18th year, I was gone for 4 years. 4 years in the beautiful town of Stillwater. It wasn’t as if I completely cut the cord from my parents after I moved out, but throughout those 4 years, I transformed from a teenager to an adult. Living in 4 different places within a 4 year period, working with OSU athletics & the OKC Blazers, in & out of my “party” stage — all the while working my way to a Sports Management degree; what i’m trying to say is that a lot of “Michael Lane” was defined in Stillwater.
So, moving back with the parents is proving as an interesting experience. Below are a few reasons why moving back in with MY parents has been challenging for me (could be the same for you):
1. They aren’t used to you being back in the house
2. They could be on a whole different level than they were when you left them in HS.
3. They don’t REALLY know you like they did back in the day.
4. Personal space is limited.
5. TV channels are blocked.
6. Room cleanliness has to be 100% maintained all the time.
I love my parents — but it’s not the easiest thing in the world to live at the o’le casa. Here’s a few reason(s) I moved back home:
1. Save money (i’m getting married in May, 2011)
2. Reduced expenses
3. Home-Cooked meals (a-mazing)
Basically, its all about being wise with your money & laying down a little bit of independence/pride to be way better off in the future. To be debt free — to have some stability. Not many people get that chance, so I’m fully aware of how blessed I am.
So, if you are planning on living with the “roommates” after a significant time away from them to save money or for any other reasons — here are some things to consider:
1. YOU are different
2. THEY are different
3. SITUATIONS are different
4. Sense of lost independence
5. You’ll have to tell co-workers, “yea, I live at home..”
6. They have rules you don’t necessarily agree with..
7. All of a sudden, making your bed is #1 priority.
While the pro’s absolutely outweigh the cons (saved money > daily life w/ 2 extras) — moving back in with the parents definitely makes for an interesting “season” of your life. It’s important to be respectful of them, their space, and their “way of doing things.” Acknowledging that its the best thing for your current situation certainly makes for a good argument to the “moving back home = failure” equation.